Friends make things right on Wild Root Farms
Between desperately trying to teach our kids to stop fighting, nap time, snack time, making bottles, movie nights, and planting our entire garden as well as some landscaping fixes... our weekends are always busy.
Our kids get dirty outside, they fight, they cry, they get hurt, they get wet, and they have unlimited time to play freely outside. Climbing fences and trees, running, riding bikes and playing some sort of children organized games with our lovely neighbor kids.
Among several other "disagreements" between the children this weekend one really stood out for the parents. After playing with play dough at an outside table for over an hour, the time had come for the five involved to clean up. Our oldest son (6 years old) wasn't too interested in this part, and a dispute took place between his friend (8 years old) and himself. He came home sobbing upset that his friend screamed at him and called him a bully. He was intensely sad and overcome with guilt and frustration.
He calmed down. I made cookies and walked him over to his friends house. I stood back and left when I heard the door open. From the parents, I heard that as soon as he came in; both boys involved, stood close, hands gently on each other in a loose hug of sorts. They spoke of how things had gotten a little heated, and how they were both sorry, and grateful for each others apology and kindness. The exchange was magical, it wasn't meant for adults to hear; and thats the magic of it. Afterwards when asked what had been exchanged exactly, the answer was, "That wasn't for you mom, it was for my friend"
When two friends apologize with genuine regret, and care for each other - then the parents must be doing SOMETHING right! Mostly our kids give annoyed, I'm Sorry's with eye rolls, and annoyance, and clearly are not interested in "making things right" at all. But this was different, and it isn't the only time I've seen that here on our farm between friends who spend countless hours playing freely together. They are learning an important life skill - guided perhaps somewhat by their parents, but also through their own freedom, and unsupervised interactions. And that makes me happy.
Oh, yes, we also planted our full gardens, added sawdust to the blueberries, and individually tucked in 300 beet plants.